Wednesday 10 December 2014

Bright eyes.

It is our wedding anniversary today - 14 years! Wow - I am blessed to have the most wonderful man in the world as my partner on this journey called life. My heart is so full of love today that maybe I need to write about that on another day.

Who knew? Who knew that Mr L had dark blue eyes with a green inner circle? The honest truth is that for the last 6 years in his life he has permanently had glasses on and no one ever noticed his eyes. Just the glasses. Yesterday his life changed - he got contact lenses for his right eye. And its not just about convenience or looks. To him, its like having some way of normal sight and the opportunity to learn how to read successfully next year.

Let me explain - up until now he saw everything in double when he has his glasses on - in two different sizes. Not wearing his glasses would have meant totally losing the vision in his right eye. It was the only way that the doctors could keep the functioning of his right eye to give us the chance to do what we are now doing. To make a long story short - his two eyes' sight differs with 8 points - this means that it can never be compensated with glasses only. He therefore has a 4,5 lens in his glasses for his visually impaired right eye making the difference in size of objects already severe. Anything more would have made it impossible for the brain to add it into sort of one picture. The optometrist yesterday gave me a lens to hold in front of my right eye to see how he has been seeing the world up to now - I was shocked ! I would have never coped but I guess if its all you know ....He also has a third of the same eye that is totally blind towards his nose - about that nothing can ever be done.

So we came to the time in his life where we had to do this in preparation for grade 1 next year - get him to wear a contact lens or failing that a lens transplant operation early next year. I was nervous but tried to play it cool. We were sent by his Ophthalmologist to a wonderful optometrist that specialise in contact lenses and is known to be successful with kids. Apparently if the first try is a disaster you miss the chance - at least for a few years so it was critical to get this done and the right way. This is also why they wait until now especially with kids with sensory issues.

We had a long consultation, fitting of two different types and then he had one in L's eye. He told him to open his eyes and showed him a beautiful picture of a fish eagle. I wish I had caught that look on his face with the phone camera but I really did not know that it would make such a huge difference. His whole face lit up and he had a huge smile. He jumped out of the chair and danced around. Oh my heart! I shed a few tears.

After all this we had an education lesson about the do s and don't s and then I had to take the lens out and put it back in myself. It took me close to 3/4 hour to do this properly and many many tries and frustration. This morning I prepared myself for the worst- and guess what? First time lucky! I am so positive that this is going to work. That this is going to make such a difference for him. Here's wishing the best for it.

BTW I knew nothing about contact lenses until now - what a new world. And apologies if that song is now turning in your head - it has been turning in mine since yesterday when it played in the mall after we left the Optometrist rooms.

15 comments:

  1. Bright eyes indeed! I had two boys with different forms of lazy eye. The oldest had to be patched and I've always wondered how much that contributed to his other behavior issues. It sounds like you have a great optometrist and good doctors who know how to work with kids make such a difference.

    I've got Total Eclipse Of The Heart running through my head now, but that's okay it's a good song.

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    1. We also had the patch thing when he was small - actually we had drops to disable the good eye. It was a nightmare time for us.

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  2. He has beautiful eyes! SO happy for you and for HIM for the difference this is going to make in his little life.

    Also Happy 14th anniversary!

    xxx

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  3. Wat 'n groot verskil gaan hierdie lense vir daardie mannetjie maak. Baie geluk met julle huweliksherdenking....en wense vir nog baie meer xxxx

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  4. did i miss the anniversary announcement? Happy 14th! :)

    I love that pic and when you explained how he just lit up with joy, it made me so teary (in a GOOD WAY)

    xxx

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  5. So amazing! I can only imagine how you were feeling as you watched his reaction! Modern medicine is wonderful. It will be interesting to see the changes that result!

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  6. Happy anniversary!

    So amazing what a difference this makes for him. I can just imagine how thrilled he must be! :-)

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  7. Ag, man - Snot en trane over here! So pleased for your li'l man! :)
    Also, congratulations on your anniversary - wishing you many, many more!

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  8. Happy anniversary!
    I started wearing contacts in high school - it took me about a month to get the hang of putting them in on the first try. I'm glad he had a good consultation. :)

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  9. Oh wow, the expression on his face must have been priceless

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  10. Ah my friend. This post moves me to tears! I am sooooo thrilled!

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  11. So glad the contact lens is working! I have been wearing contacts for ages and it opened up a whole new world to me as well! I hated glasses all of my school-going years!

    Congrats on your anniversary!

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  12. Gorgeous eyes! Contact lenses were a complete game-changer for Quinn too. Good luck I hope they're a huge success for you guys too! XXX

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  13. I know this is really late, but it is wonderful news. I have been wearing lenses for a few years now and I like them and I hate them. I am not sure I will ever get used to it.
    I hope your little one loves it.

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  14. Cat, our children are just so precious! It is the "small" things that we take for granted, that actually makes life so very pleasant, enjoyable and manageable - like our sight! It is often our approach that makes a world of difference to our children :)

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