Tuesday 10 March 2009

Things are tough

The Little Miss and I had a lovely weekend. Just to return to a very harsh reality. Things are tough at home - just the reality of two working parents, raising 3 small kids and my hubby's traveling daily to work on SA's busiest highway, is taking it's toll.

What I perceived to be the solution to the biggest problem, my hubby's unhappiness about his work situations and the commuting is no longer a possibility. He has stopped his studies as he can not fit it in in his long day, working, commuting and the reality of 3 small kids at home. I feel like I failed him in not being supportive enough, but truly I am doing what I can. I offered to take the kids all on myself for the year, but he is seeing it as unrealistic, and maybe, I was living in a dreamworld.

If I can please ask your prayers for:
1. H making the right decision.
2. Me accepting it.
3. Our marriage to stay healthy and happy through all this.
4. A great new job for him, close to home.
5. For him to be happy about himself - his self image is hitting a low point.
6. For me to stay strong. I have been crying on and off the whole day. Work is also tough at present and Little man C is sick - I have not been sleeping for more than a few stolen hours in the last two nights.

Sorry if I have been quiet, I am really just at a very very low point in my life. And I will visit your blog again, soon, I promise.

19 comments:

  1. Awww...I'm sorry to hear times are tough. I will keep you guys in my prayers. Hang in there. Try to get as much joy as you can out of your kiddies. Kids are "joy factories." That's what I try to do when I'm down. It works pretty well.

    (((HUGS)))

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  2. Hang tight! Will add you to my prayer list! (oh, and do try to get in some good sleep - being rested always seems to help make it through the trying times in life)

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  3. Love and prayers to you, I hope it all works out soon.

    btw - we chose the same background from CBOTB - what's the saying - great minds think alike!

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  4. I am so sorry that things are rough for you. You will be in my thoughts and prayers.

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  5. so sorry to hear about all the issues you are facing. I will keep you & your family in my thoughts & prayers.

    in response to your question about Sarah's 'chicken pox' - they are leftover valentine red heart stickers!

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  6. Cat:
    You're in my thoughts. Times are not always easy and I sometimes wonder why we are tested. Difficult to figure out.
    Smiles & Hugs,
    Jill

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  7. Hoping it all comes together and you feel good about your decisions soon. Sending prayers your way.

    -Faith

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  8. My Dear Friend, These are very difficult times. I pray you and your family will grow stronger in your journey. The fact that you are aware and willing to pray and work on your worries tells me all will work out for the best. You are a strong woman with a strong marriage. Keep the lines of communication open and love each other with all your hearts. We'll say tons of prayers for you while you work on what's important. Family!

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  9. I'm sorry things are rough. Praying for the wisdom and courage you'll need in the process.

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  10. I'm so sorry! Prayers for you. When a hubby is unhappy at work it just plain stinks!!!

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  11. Oh Cat, I'm so sorry. I do hope H finds a resolution with his work and that what he decides works for all of you.

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  12. Oh Cat, it sounds like you're really struggling. I am so sorry to hear this. I will say lots of prayers and think good thoughts and send them your way....
    {{{{{hugs}}}}}

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  13. Oh Cat.
    I am so sorry.
    If you ever need to vent privately, please feel free to send me an email.
    I will certainly keep you all in my prayers.
    Always.
    Debi

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  14. Thanks for stopping by my blog today, fellow Wright fan. =) Our favorite place to visit thus far has been Fallingwater. I hope things start looking up for you. WHen my husband is getting down on himself or seems to be lacking confidence, I try to go out of my way to make him feel loved and appreciated. Sometimes it's making his favorite meals, getting him a CD I know he's been wanting, or just giving him some extra loving and telling him how proud I am of him.

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  15. Thanks for stopping by my blog today. I tried to comment earlier on here, but something funky happened so I don't think it took. Anyways, always nice to meet a future Wright fan. =) I took my husband to Fallingwater for his birthday a couple years ago and we spent our 4th anniversary at the Robie House and Wright's home and studio. He was certainly talented and ahead of his time!

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  16. I'm sorry I did not see this blog post till today. You are in my prayers as well as your family. We are going through similar stuff around here. My husband hates his job and hates never being at home. The only way we can see right now to fix it, is to move, again. Hang in there.

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  17. OH Cat! Thinking of you *hug* Somehow, things always have a way of figuring themselves out. Perhaps it's just a matter of timing.

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