Thursday, 29 September 2016
I am exhausted
And by that I mean not just being tired. That I am too - the 3rd term is always long and tiring. I am however exhausted of all the fighting. It never stops! I did not grow up with siblings but I do know most have their fighting moments. However I am sure it does not need to be like this. I do hope that we have made a difference this week.
The fighting in our house in constant - with evenings being the high point of it all. That of course does not mean that it does not start with breakfast, and continues all the way to school at times. Well maybe I am exaggerating because it is interspersed with sweet moments and lots of love. But it gets to me - a lot! Trying to break up the fight by pointing out who is correct (if in fact one of them is) serves no purpose because I will often be accused of favoriting the other party - regardless if it is a plain fact and that I can show them the fact on google or in a book.
Although it seem to be mostly A and C , L the boys often have their issues and on the odd occasion A and L will have a spliff. But the fights that really gets to me most are the ones where it seems the fighting is about the will to fight - and nothing more.It actually makes no difference what the fight is about - I am of the opinion that they are fighting because they want to fight. Or, as I realized this week, because they are so used to fighting it has become a habit.
We are trying to break that habit - simply because I can not go on like this anymore. We had a talk to them on Tuesday night about stopping the constant fights. Yesterday I had to remind them a few times about our talk and every time they stopped immediately. I am convinced it is a habit we can break and although I am under no illusion that it will be the end of fighting I hope we can limit the fights to when they are needed.
Please tell me it's not just our kids.... please? And do you think fighting can become a habit more than anything else?