Wednesday 20 August 2014

On competition and more

I had a busy week with heaps of deadlines and lots to do. I delivered my last deadline item this morning and although there are heaps of the usual things to catch up on I can breathe a bit easier for now.

The last week has been full of activities and the usual run of the mill stuff. C had a Judo tournament and got a gold medal, A got her gold merit badge at school (the quickest she has done it since grade 1) and just way too many of the little things in life to mention. The big event though was the English schools speech festival yesterday afternoon.

Although we are not an English school we do present English on a first language level and hence, we take part in this festival. A has always done well in this and with her background in drama it comes easy. However C decided immediately as we received word of this that he wanted to participate too. He totally surprised us by learning his poem in no time and adding the appropriate  expressions etc. I then realised that for the first time these two will participate in an event where they could see it as a competition. Now C and  L have in fact competed directly against each other in Judo - but there were no issues. I was sort of fearing issues here as these two seem to naturally gravitate towards competing for our attention or whatever. (I am often given the impossible task to chose say the prettiest picture etc - drives me nuts).

So we had the appropriate talk the night before about just doing our best and supporting each other etc. On the afternoon they both asked to be with the other when they did their item and as time worked out, we could. Both got a gold, which made me very very proud and possibly averted unpleasant issues.

However I know the time WILL come when they will go heads on with something or the other. Maybe as close as the end of year prize giving - lo and behold if one may win some special prize. I guess it's just another of those very hard lessons we have to teach our children. And to which they seem to each react so differently. I guess some of it we can chalk up to personality only and others to birth order. But address we have to.


9 comments:

  1. So glad there was no drama (hahaha) with the two of them. It's interesting to see how this stuff plays out because now you want both to do well, but not at the expense of the other :)

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    1. A has twin friends that competed - one did well, the other not. Am wondering how that mom handled it

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  2. This is why I am sticking with one :)
    A little competition is healthy and makes us all want to do better...but I guess there is the ugly side too.

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    1. No, have another! And they have to learn this in any event = regardless because life is full of competition all the time

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  3. Well done to your boys :-)
    A little healthy competition is normal I guess. And it's probably better that they learn about it at home in a loving and supportive environment than out in the world where things can be a bit harsh.
    I can see it developing slowly with my girls too, even though they are 2 years apart.

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    1. Hi - great to have you here! It's actually the 9 year old girlchild and one of the twins. And yes, I can see you will have it too!

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  4. Sounds like it went very well...I'm kind of glad we don't have to deal with this - N is super competitive!

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  5. Congrats! They are doing very well!
    A bit of healthy competition between siblings are not a bad thing!
    t just needs to be addressed, but you are doing that!

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  6. Geluk. Jou kinders is baie talentvol. So bly hulle het albei goud gekry.

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