Or lack thereof as is more often than not the case with us. We have only my mom and my cousin in Pretoria as family that we can count on to help out with the kids. And no friends that have the capacity to handle our 3 on top of their own.We count on hired help, in the form of Lucy after hours. But with her on sick leave for the last 8 weeks, we have pretty much been on our own.
My mom's help is limited to the Princess mainly as she moves with difficulty and the Boys are just way too intense for her to handle. I guess she can handle them in our house for the maximum of an hour on her own. My cousin can handle the crowd, but she has a life of her own and a full time job, so we count on her on the odd occasion. As we will this Sunday when the two of us will be attending a special lunch with friends.We can not even remember when last the two of us were out alone - I guess it is about 10 weeks or so. I am hugely thankful that she so readily agreed to help.
Yesterday and today I have a sick little girl who need to stay at home out of this freezing cold and get better form some arb viral infection (possibly German Measles) and although I can work from home, it is not always practical with meetings arranged and interaction required with staff. If it was one of the boys, I would have had to make it work at home. So my mom stepped in to help, for which I am very grateful, but she can not be there early. So I only get to the office at about 9:30.
I wonder if a lot of young couples with kids and a great support network with grandparents, sisters and brothers etc around them really appreciate what this network means to them. How great it is to have grandparents to leave your kids with for one night's good sleep. How wonderful to be able to slip away for a weekend. For us, this is often not possible, or only with a huge amount of organization etc.
So here's to a support network, however small it might be as in our case.Or however large it might be in your case. Without it, we are truly stuck.
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